Yesterday, I shared the thoughts of a recent college grad who gave his reasons for abandoning affirmative consent. As he told it, women were more often frustrated by his deference than appreciative. He was most confounded by a woman who stopped his advances—he quickly listened—only to complain later that he wasn’t more persistent. She was offering “token resistance,” he thought, because while she wanted to hook up, she didn’t want to be thought of as a slut. And while he didn’t feel comfortable ignoring “token resistance,” his perception of it helped sour him on affirmative consent. “One of my fondest sexual experiences started with making eye contact across a room, moved to a dance floor, and then to an empty bathroom,” he offered by way of comparison. “Not a single word was ever spoken, because none had to be. We both knew and understood. I was a man and she was a woman, and we found ourselves drawn together in that beautiful way that men and women have been since a time immemorial, a time long before language was ever spoken.” [Read more]

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